Featured Book: When Your Child is Gay: What You Need to Know, by Wesley Cullen Davidson and Dr. Jonathan L. Tobkes, MD
We’re fast approaching National Coming Out Day on October 11 and it seemed the perfect time to share a recent book for parents of LGBT children.
Via press release:
Coming out can be fraught with difficulty for both parents and child—but Wesley Cullen Davidson, a popular blogger on gay rights issues, and Dr. Jonathan L. Tobkes, a New York City-based psychiatrist provide a road map in their new book, When Your Child is Gay: What You Need To Know, so that families can better navigate this rocky emotional terrain.
The combination of real-life stories of relationships of gay children and their parents told by a popular blogger (Davidson) with the insights of a professional psychiatrist knowledgeable about these issues (Tobkes) makes When Your Child is Gay: What You Need to Know stand out from other books on the gay experience. “In each chapter, I provide tips to help parents and gay children avoid difficult relationships and heart ache that I see so often in my practice,” Dr. Tobkes says.
Co-author Davidson is a mother who accidentally discovered her son was gay. While cleaning her thirteen year-old son’s room, a love note fell out of her son’s composition book. This was the first sign that her son might be gay. She describes how she handled the situation and still maintained a loving relationship with her son. Davidson says, “I wrote this book to help parents and kids through similar difficult situations.”
The many parents interviewed by Davidson related their reactions when they realized their children were gay, the resulting emotional upheaval, and the process they went through leading to eventual acceptance. She also interviewed gay children of straight parents about their experiences of coming out.
Dr. Tobkes, who is gay, has worked with many gay adolescents and their families over the last ten years. He has identified consistent patterns in the ways parents react to their gay children, including denial, guilt, fear, anger, shame, loss and finally acceptance.
ABOUT THE AUTHORS:
Wesley Cullen Davidson is an award-winning freelance writer and journalist specializing in parenting in a gay and lesbian context. For the past two years, Ms. Davidson has concentrated almost exclusively on advising straight parents how to be better parents and how to raise happy, well-adjusted gay adults. She writes a popular blog on this topic: straightparentgaykid.blogspot.com, and was a frequent contributor to the websites gaynewspulse.com and gayagenda.com. Her guest blogs and online articles are among the most frequently visited on these sites. She lives in Florida.
Jonathan L. Tobkes, MD, is a practicing psychiatrist in Manhattan. His patients include many gay/lesbian people as well as the straight parents of lesbians and gays. A cum laude Yale University graduate, Dr. Tobkes currently teaches at the New York-Presbyterian/Weill Cornell Medical Center in Manhattan. He lives in New York City.