Authenticity is the greatest gift a person can give to this world, to the people they love, and to their own soul. It is the first and greatest building block for reaching your potential. It is the moment when the clouds in the sky bow down to the sunlight and the opportunity to understand the concept of truth moves out of the shadows of ideology and into the light of realness.
“It is revolutionary for any trans person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist.” – Laverne Cox’s amazing statement accurately describes the forces that bring pressure onto each of us to fold ourselves into socially-constructed boxes and tuck our wings, looking incessantly and longingly toward the sky.
When I first began sharing my journey as a transgender woman, I talked about becoming a woman. Although I knew that was not an accurate description of what was happening in my world, I didn’t have a better way of telling the story. As time went by, I worked diligently to find better ways to describe the process.
Today, I understand that I was never male. My who I am has always been female. In fact, I was always presenting myself as a person who was never me. Putting on my “Steven Suit”. Pretending to be male and at the same time, trying to learn how to be male.